Miss C's 6th birthday was this past week & on Saturday, we had the cutest tea party to celebrate. Months ago, she started asking about her birthday. She was waffling between wanting a Frozen birthday theme and a tea party, so I steered her towards the tea party and it was so sweet. I started collecting old cups and saucers at garage sales & Kijiji. Garage sales had much better prices than the thrift stores. My wonderful sister-in-law helped me by scouring Value Village for tea pots. We found some old lacy curtains at the thrift store for $2/panel. Collecting everything was so fun. The kids were all pretty helpful at the garage sales, searching the tables for gold rimmed cups & saucers.
I finally tried out my Silhouette on the invitations.
We made a bunch of cute treats. Those marshmallows are so super easy.
The sugar cookies were fun (and kept me up 'till 2am...) !
The girls all looked adorable in gloves, hats & pearls.
Awe, so sweet!
Miss C was excited about her sparkler.
I'll huff and I'll puff! She's so pretty.
Time to open gifts!
Our sweet Miss C is such a joy. She still has the sweetest little voice and such a charming personality. She has a tender heart, and is always looking out for others. She is so bubbly and peppy, always has a half smile on her face. We are so happy to have this cutie in our home. She brings a fun and playfulness to everything she does. We love you, Miss Muffin!
Minutes before the bus came this morning, Miss A pulled out a tooth. She has been living with 3 of her top front teeth missing for months now, and she just pulled out the fourth. There will be no carrots for that girl for a while.
After school, I was sitting with Miss C. and Mr. Q. at the kitchen table when I heard approaching sobbing. Miss A came in, I pulled her on my lap and asked her what was the matter. She could barely get the words out between sobs, "I accidentally dropped my tooth down the sink when I was washing the blood off for the tooth fairy." I told her that the tooth fairy will be able to find it and not to worry.
This is what she will awake to:
"Life is like an old time rail journey…delays…sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling burst of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.” - Gordon B Hinckley
It was a gorgeous day today. It was 25* C and felt perfect. We spent the morning at the park, playing with a bunch of friends. This afternoon, the girls & I made Rice Krispie squares while Mr. Q took a nap.
Matt got home earlier than he has been lately & we ate supper together on the deck. The gils were so excited about corn on the cob.
Miss A did pretty well since she's missing her 3 front top teeth & told us at supper that 3 more are loose...
I think corn will be out of the question if those fall out before any grow in.
After supper the kids started playing their made up Umbrella Game in the yard. One child has the sprayer & the other two have umbrellas.
The point of the game is for the Sprayer to get the other two wet. The other two try to protect themselves. Every once in a while they trade positions.
Thank goodness for Dollarama umbrellas because they were completely bent and wrecked by the end of the game.
I loved hearing the giggling voices, and seeing the smiles that were plastered on their faces. Today, we were riding along the top of the most beautiful vista, and I am, indeed, THANKFUL for the ride.
Our kids are like most kids. They are quick & happy to comply with instructions when we ask them things like, "Miss A, could you get the tub of ice-cream from the freezer, so I can make you an ice-cream cone?" Or, "Mr. Q would you please pull the sprinkler into the middle of the yard so you can go running through it with your sisters?"
Those type of requests bring swift obedience and acknowledgement. When asking them to put their toys away or to turn off the TV or get their PJ's on, we are often met with deaf ears. We were getting to the point where this selective hearing was driving Matt & I crazy.
My sister attended a parenting class where they suggested catching your kids doing good things, then acknowledge them for it. This is where THE JAR comes in.
We started off with a family meeting, where we discussed different ways of reacting when we are asked to complete a task. We talked about doing the job thoroughly & quickly, doing it while grumbling and dragging our feet, putting it off for a later time, and ignoring the request completely.
The behavior that I expect from my children is:
1st To vocally acknowledge that I've requested them to do something
2nd To either get the job done or explain why they aren't able to
3rd To keep a happy voice, rather than whining
We explained that Matt & I would be watching for their reactions over the coming days & weeks. If they are quick to obey, we take a teaspoon of dry rice and pour it into THE JAR. We drew lines on the jar & told them that when the jar was full to each line, they would earn a prize. We let them choose their rewards. They came up with:
1. Ice-Cream Sandwiches
2. McDonalds Playplace & Happy Meals
3. Movie at the theatre & popcorn
I, for one, was glad they didn't pick something outragrous like Disneyland. :)
They reached the first line and ate the Ice-Cream sandwiches after about 4-5 days. It's so nice hearing the kiddos say, 'Yes, mom. ' when I ask them to do something rather than having to repeat things 13 times.
They got to go to McD's after another week had passed. This was almost 2 weeks in to our Jar experiment, and at this point I really think their behavior had greatly improved!!
Today, they finally reached the last line on the jar. Yippee!
We saw Dispicable Me 2 this evening. It is such a cute show. They loved their popcorn, and getting to watch the "huge TV" as Miss C said.
Tomorrow, we dump out the jar & let the kids pick new prizes to receive at each level. Although they are far from perfect, they do listen much better than they did a few months ago. THE JAR works!!!
Do you have any suggestions or experience in improving behavior?
Disclaimer: This is a long post. Really long. It has taken me a month to go through pictures and get it written. I apologize in advance. lol
Renos are tough. We've been pretty focused on them since the middle of January, in an attempt to get our house ready to put up for sale & take advantage of the spring market. It's so hard to get done all the stuff we usually do, in addition to what ended up being a full time renovation job on top of it all. Since January, our home has felt like a place of constant dust & mess, our kitchen has become a tool storage area, because I was so busy, I stopped preparing my usual healthy meals, our kids spent a lot of time in front of the tube. Mr. Q now knows the theme song from Jake and the Neverland Pirates by heart.
The TV was the babysitter for 6 weeks of their short little lives. Sad, I know. The chaos was really affecting my mental health. You know that feeling when you've been going too hard for too long and
the light at the end of the tunnel seems much too far away? That's how I
felt. Then, a little seed of happiness popped into our lives. My parents told us that they wanted to take us all to Mexico for a week in mid April. At that point, it was a month away. We were all so excited! I desperately wanted to finish the renos before we left so we could get it up for sale & I could just relax and not worry about my to-do list anymore. It's only me with this problem, Matt wouldn't be worried while we were gone. I started working overtime on the house, dragging my poor husband along for my crazy ride. We stayed up 'till midnight or later night after night, followed by a hot shower & finally collapsing in bed exhausted (with sopping wet hair). I had this countdown to our week of relaxing in the back of my brain, but I couldn't have a moment of peace before then, not unless the renos were finished. The week came for us to go on our vacation, I had worked myself non-stop but was unable to get it all pulled together in time. I felt like I had failed to accomplish my self-imposed (unrealistic) goals, and instead of being proud of all the things we had accomplished, I was disappointed in being unable to get more done. This is a real big personality flaw of mine. I recognize it, and it drives me bonkers. I worked on the house until noon on Friday and then started packing (for 5 people...) for our flight that we had to be up at 2am Saturday morning to catch. Crazy, I know. We went shopping for t-shirts and shorts in the early evening and were at the mall until it closed. We finally had the suitcases packed and waiting by the door at 1am. No point in sleeping at that point, right?
The flight there was pretty uneventful. The girls like to colour and Mr. Q slept most of the way. I was exhausted and slept on and off between trips to the teeny tiny
bathroom that is not designed for a mom to bring her little children into. The super sonic toilet flush is pretty terrifying to a 3 year old. Our kids, I must admit, were angels on the plane. We received many compliments from other passengers on their good behavior. Makes a mama proud.
We stepped off the plane at PVR and the heat & humidity was almost shocking (in a really good way!). We went from a weather forcast with a snowfall warning, to beautiful, tropical sunshine. It was wonderful.
We stayed at the Friendly Vallarta resort. We went up to our room and stepped out on the balcony to see the most gorgeous view.
Stunning, no? We spent a week as a family, enjoying each other, the weather, the water, the break. It was perfect. My parents, my sister & her family, my brother & his wife, and another brother all went together. There were 16 of us total. Another brother and his wife were not able to come as they are expecting twin baby girls soon and couldn't travel. Often, someone mentioned that they wished they were with us. Hopefully next time there will be 20 (or more??) of us.
When we arrived, we almost immediately got changed into our swimsuits, slathered on the SPF 3000 and sunhats and went swimming right away. The pool had a little kids area that was only about 18" deep or so and there was a ledge around most of the pool that the kids were comfortable walking on.
There were many trips to the little cabana that had the slushy drinks. The food/drink servers were outstanding. You never went too long without someone bringing you something yummy. All-Inclusive is definitely the way to go. It was SO nice not having to prepare meals or clean up. I kept reflecting on that several times each day. It makes for a true vacation. As we are teetotalers, the non-stop alcohol wasn't an enticement, but once we told the waiters we don't drink, they remembered who we were and said, "No-alcohol, right?" whenever we'd order a drink. That's great service.
Before church on Sunday, we went for a walk along the beach together. The girls wanted to stick their toes in. Miss C. got pretty wet. I was randomly asked to play piano at church. It was interesting to play these Spanish hymns, because even though the tunes were mostly the same, the notes were slightly off from what I'm used to because the translation of the hymns didn't necessarily allow for the same number of notes in each measure. I don't know if the musical terms are correct, but it was just a bit off.
We had a quiet afternoon. Mr. Q had fun building sand castles with his cousins. He always sticks out his tongue when he is concentrating on something.
Quick break from playing to have a cuddle with Grandma.
Tuesday, we went on a fun excursion with the whole gang. It was a day long Pirate ship voyage & was really different and fun. Grandma and Papa had been before and wanted to take the grandkids. This was taken during breakfast in the ships galley.
We sailed across the bay to this beautiful beach with gorgeous clear water where we took an hour or two to play on the beach. The water was so nice. Little Miss C loves the waves pushing her back to shore. Awe. I love that guy.
On the beach, the pirates had a treasure hunt lined up for the kids. They had to follow clues on a map & eventually unearthed the buried treasure. That was one of the highlights of the trip for the kids. They are still talking about it regularly a month later.
Thanks, dude in the green shirt, for joining our family picture... lol
Miss A was wiped out from all the sun the day before. I think she had a dose of heat exhaustion. We mostly just kept her out of the sun and drinking a lot of water. The only thing she really wanted to participate in was the treasure hunt. Poor sweetie. Thank goodness she was fine the next day.
We spent Wednesday at the Puerto Vallarta Zoo. The entire place is almost like a huge petting & feeding zoo. You can get really close to the animals (my brother-in-law was licked by a giraffe...) but I'd have to say that I found the conditions deplorable. The alligators were in these tiny puddles of water, the hippos had a hot tub worth of dirty water to sit in, the pens had next to no vegetation, just concrete. I'm not an activist, but to me, it was sad. To my kids, however, it was the coolest thing ever. They loved feeding the animals & didn't notice the conditions at all. I wouldn't go back.
We spent the next day hanging out at the pool for the most part. The kids had so much fun playing with their cousins. We made sure they kept their hats and reapplied sunscreen several times. I didn't want to deal with kids complaining about sunburn pain. I laid in the shade of a big umbrella, reading the Septimus Heap series listening to the kids laugh and splash and play for most of the day. It was so perfect.
Later that night, my parents were so kind to watch the kids while Matt & I went to the Rythms of the Night, along with my brother and sister-in-law. It was probably the highlight of the trip for me. It starts off with an hour long catamaran ride to Las Caletas, where you eat a really nice meal on the most stunning beach. After supper, we had a while to walk on the beach & enjoy the stunning scenery. Then, there was the open air show of music, dance and pyrotechnics. I'd describe it as Mayan history meets Cirque du Soleil, in the middle of a gorgeous beach and jungle. After the show, you follow the candle/torch lit paths back to the boat where you travel back to Puerto Vallarta. It was well worth the price & I'd do it again in a flash if given the chance. :)
While in the cab, traveling home from the zoo, my dad asked Miss A what her favorite animal was, expecting her to say hippo or giraffe or some other animal that she had just seen. Without hesitation she replied, "Dolphins!!" I had been toying with the idea of taking her to swim with the dolphins, but her reply pretty much cemented in my mind that I was actually going to take her. Friday, Miss A & I were able to have a most memorable mommy daughter date. The dolphins name was Angel. He is 8 years old. His skin is super smooth and not at all slimy. Angel was very well trained, and Miss A seemed to be comfortable with him, but she wouldn't let him kiss her. Before bed tonight, Miss A was looking at a picture of her and Angel pinned up on her magnet board in her room and she said, "I miss Angel." It was awesome to see Miss A so super excited and grinning. I'm so glad we went. :)
The next day was the day we traveled home. Our kids were again really great on the plane. When we arrived at the airport here, it was snowing... on April 20th. I wasn't impressed, but I could deal with it.
This trip was a wonderful break from all the renos we have been working on. I really, really needed to relax, and this vacation was like hitting a reset switch. I am truly grateful to my parents for their generosity and kindness. We have such fun lasting memories our family can share, and it's because of this trip. To be honest, Mexico was never a destination that I really wanted to go to. It seemed like such a typical place that everyone and their dog goes to. I thought I would prefer somewhere more exotic, like Hawaii or Tahiti, but I have to say it was the most awesome vacation ever! I guess I don't have anything to compare it to, but it doesn't matter. It was fun. It was relaxing. It was a week of heaven with people I love. Thanks mom and dad. We love you!
PS
We had our house up for sale 8 days after we got home from Mexico.
We got an offer after 5 days and after we negotiated a bit it sold the next day. They did the property inspection and all conditions were removed on Mother's Day. What a huge weight lifted!
It's been a whirlwind of change.
We packed up one of our best friends, Leah, on Saturday for her new life across the country, and we are moving as well this coming Saturday. As my mother and father-in-law are serving a mission in the Ukraine, they had an empty house we are taking over for a while. We are truly grateful to them for providing us a home.
Life is busy, but good. I'm living a wonderful life. I try to see the good and count my blessings everyday... kick me if you hear me complain. :)
Mr. Q. still takes an afternoon nap most of the time. Church starts at 1pm and we don't get home 'till just after 4, so he's usually dead tired by then. This week, we came home and I made the kids some Itchiban noodles for a quick supper, since they were "starving".
Here's what happened:
So. Cute.
He speaks really well for a 27 month old. Last night we were eating supper and he said that his food was delicious. Hahaha! How many kids say that about split pea soup?? I just love that little guy. :)
We had a fabulous day yesterday. The kids got along all day with only a handful of screaming/whining/hitting events. All three kiddos piled in the tub for about 45 minutes of splashing/giggling fun in the morning while I cleaned up after breakfast. I love listening to happy play sounds. I fully expected to be mopping up buckets full of water from the floor when I went in to get them, but surprisingly they kept the water contained to the tub!! Can you hear the angels singing??
Little Mr. Q and I took a drive to Wal-Mart after supper to pick him out some big boy underwear. He just turned two a few weeks ago, but he is doing great with telling me he needs to go. He chose some Lightening McQueen and cars ones. We're going to try them out tomorrow. Wish us luck!! He has yet to tell me when it's time for #2. I'm praying he gets the hang of that real quick!
When we got back, the girls were having a dance party in the living room. I pulled out my iPhone just in time to catch this gem. Make sure you watch to the end.
I still giggle when I watch it now. Her little tooshie. so. cute. Teeheehee
On another topic, about a year ago (I think anyway, I'm awful at remembering when I did things) a few friends and I got together & made menu planning boards. They have sheet metal as the backing and the menu items all have magnets taped on the back, so I store all my extra items on the back. I used it consistently for 8 or 9 months but for some reason, I slowly stopped using it. Lately, cooking has seemed much more like a chore, so I decided to give it a whirl again. It makes such a difference to my evenings when I don't have to think about what to make for supper. I try to buy all our groceries for 2 weeks at a time which is easy enough when I have a plan. If I don't make a menu, I end up in the grocery store a lot more often picking up an item here and there and it always ends up costing a lot more.
Here's the menu for March. On the menu tonight was Mulligatawny soup and Naan bread. It is SOOoooooo good. They are both favorites in our home.
Tonight was the first time Matt made Naan bread. It tasted fantastic! He was such a trooper, grilling away while the snow came down. I grilled some pork chops earlier this week, and had to chisel ice from behind the gas knobs before I could turn the BBQ on. We are year round grillers. Such is life on Canada.
Here's hoping the snow stops soon. I am really looking forward to spring. I was thinking about starting some tomatoes from seed. It's about the right time for that...
Yesterday, my baby turned two! Mr. Q's birthday fell on a very busy week, so I'm afraid he got a last minute birthday of sorts.
He enjoyed his tiger cupcake.
Hopefully next year I will be a bit more organized and do something fun.
This was the jungle themed cupcakes.
Which is your favorite? Quinn chose the tiger.
This morning, I was folding a mountain of laundry in our bedroom, when Mr. Q came in, covered in chocolate. This is a pic after I cleaned him up, before they had to clean the cake out of the carpet. I love how he is looking at Miss C with this 'she made me do it' look on his face. They just picked the big hunks off before I took over. I'm pretty sure they would have done more harm than good. I love cleaning chocolate cake out of my carpet. So. much.
At least they had the courtesy to lick the frosting off before tossing the rest on the floor. How do they learn this stuff? It was one of those days where it was one thing after another. So was yesterday. Tomorrow has got to be better, right?
Miss A has had a loose tooth for about a week now. Last night she said the blessing on the food at supper. She prayed that her tooth would fall out. Sure enough, when I picked her up at the bus stop today she came running to me and pulled down her neck warmer to reveal her missing tooth. She was so excited and just beaming.
Her tooth fell out when she bit into an apple slice at lunchtime. The lunch supervisor sent her to the office where they gave her this little toothy envelope to put her tooth in.
She was so excited to show us her tooth.
We're all looking forward to the first tooth fairy visit tonight. Hopefully, she will be able to sleep!
If I didn't have to teach my Zumba class in 2 hours, I might have made her these tooth cupcakes to celebrate. What an exciting day!
EDIT: I forgot to mention the cutest part. After I reminded her about her prayer at supper last night, she was so excited that her prayer was answered. A few minutes later, I saw her in the corner kneeling down. She told me she wanted to say thank you to Him for answering her prayer!! I love my sweet girl!
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Awe. I love that guy.
